The Erotic Blueprints™ and what your routes to arousal might be.
The Nature Archetype and why it's essential to your sexual health.
The "Who we are" and "What we are about" of Nicki Snow and the Red Jasper Community.
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Do you feel like you often have to suppress your voice or your pleasure?
Do you feel shame or guilt for the desires you have?
Are you confused with how to communicate with a partner or potential partners?
Do you buy self study programs and either never start them, never really dive into them, or get about halfway and never finish?
Do you feel like you might never find a satisfying relationship that you love?
Do you feel like you have no one to talk to about all this?
Do you have difficulties with erections, orgasm, or ejaculation?
Do you feel lost or overwhelmed in large group programs? Maybe feeling like just a number, unseen, or unheard? Not really getting the benefits of going through the program in a successful way that helps you integrate it into your life? Not really seeing or feeling the changes you would like to have in your life?
We will be balancing both the masculine and feminine energies in all participants, men, women, and any gender in between or outside of societal norms. This will spark and ignite your imagination, fuel your creativity, feed your soul, and give you the freedom to grow and become all that you can possibly be in this world.
You will gain knowledge and learn to embody your Nature Archetype™, allowing you to connect more deeply and authentically to nature, yourself, and others around you.
You will learn how to slow down in mind and in body, allowing you to move and make decisions from a calm, grounded, instinctual, intuitive, and inspired space instead of your “out of control wild horse mind” that requires you to endure a lot more work, exhaustion, and incorrect paths. More magic, less mule!
We will be intentionally grounding, breathing, and pacing ourselves so you can have the direct experience of what’s needed to stay present, absorb information, and integrate it effectively and efficiently into your life. Everything that is needed to get the love, sex, and intimacy you truly desire!
We will keep you accountable with just the right amounts of empathy and fierceness that you need as an individual; as well as your small tight-knit community witnessing your growth and expansion, your fails and contractions, and cheering you on to new heights in your life. Together we rise!
When it comes to love, sex, and intimacy, the Erotic Blueprints™ gives you a framework and a language to help you understand, validate, and communicate your needs, wants, and desires. It also helps you understand and have compassion for a partner's (or potential partner's) needs, wants, and desires; as well as to navigate and negotiate relationships with confidence, integrity, and respect.
You will learn a framework and logical verbal language to understand, validate, and communicate what you have been feeling about your needs, wants, and desires.
You will be able to use this framework to understand and have compassion and empathy for a partner’s or potential partner’s needs, wants, and desires.
You will be able to navigate and negotiate relationships and getting your needs, wants, and desires met with confidence, integrity, and respect.
You will be more aligned to your divine feminine energy no matter what gender you embody, which will then allow the divine masculine light within you and those around you to protect, strengthen, honor, and serve the heart-centered way. This will leave you feeling more fulfilled, satisfied, and authentically you.
“Nicki has spent many years developing her understanding of sexuality; she’s a master and it shows. She skillfully used personal inventories and body practices to help us see our patterns and how to break free of them. She helped us all to stay on course and create a vision of who we want to be as men.”
Kevin P.
Jaiya and the Erotic Blueprints™ were highlighted recently on a Netflix series called Sex, Love, & Goop with Gwyneth Paltrow.
There are 8 modules with over 70 easy-to-digest 5 to 15 minute video training sessions, packed with knowledge, interactive games, and experiential tools to make sure you succeed and have fun doing it!
Module 1
Foundations: Setting You Up for Success
Module 2
The 5 Stages of Sexuality: Understanding Cycles & Phases
Module 3
Determine Your Erotic Blueprint Type: Your Routes to Arousal
Module 4
Feeding Your Erotic Blueprint: Feeling Fully Satisfied
Module 5
Speaking the Erotic Blueprints: Understanding Words, Tone & Energy
Module 6
Healing Your Erotic Blueprint: Mechanically, Chemically, Energetically & Emotionally
Module 7
Expanding Your Erotic Blueprints: Diving Deeper
Module 8
Hot "Sex" for A Lifetime: What's Next For You?
Places are limited so as to preserve the intimacy of the groups, click the button below to reserve your seat today.
1 Call Per Erotic Blueprint™ Module
Each 75 minute call is based on 1 of the 8 Erotic Blueprint™ Modules allowing you to clarify and ask questions about the module, dive into a deeper understanding of the material presented, and really ground and integrate the insights, learnings, and tools into your life.
Submit Questions & Recording Access for 1 Year
Each call will be recorded and you will have the ability to submit questions up to 24 hours before the call. If you cannot make the call live, you will have access to the recordings for up to six months.
Small Group Cohort
Small group cohorts of 12 people on average gives you the ability to have the best of both worlds! You get opportunities for personalized attention and coaching; as well as hearing the questions, struggles, growth and expansion of others within a small community of people, you are not alone and you will not get lost! You will be heard, seen, and held as much as you would like in a loving and accepting community. You will connect with and have the opportunity to build authentic intimate friendships with other people on the same journey as you.
Learn to "Get Out of Your Head"
Nicki will use her intuitive abilities to “read” the group, understand what the group needs as a collective as well as individually, and guide opening and closing meditations to help clear any conditioned patterns of thinking, believing, and behaving so that each person can “get out of their heads” and enter into a space of calm and stillness, grounding deeply into their bodies, and having the ability to receive their own intuitive guidance and instincts.
Assignment of Action Items
You will be assigned Actions Items to complete in preparation for the next call, and guess what? There is scientific evidence that even if you only complete 40% you are doing pretty good! If you complete 50-70% you are doing really well, and if you complete 80-100%... well, then you are a crazy over-achiever, and a people pleaser like me… and that’s totally OK! You can complete whatever level suits you. We love you any way you show up!
This is not about pleasure grasping and hoarding for good feelings, highs, and instant gratification in the short term. This is about pleasure seeking and fulfillment for satisfaction, happiness, and contentment in the long term.
Nicki’s passionate demeanor and encouragement really took working on my business to the next level. I realized that intentionally working pleasure into my daily routines helped me increase energy and focus. Now, I feel invigorated, joyful, and more engaged with my work!
Byron D.
Over the last 30 years, Nicki has excelled in male-dominated industries. She has become an expert in all things pertaining to the human body, from anatomy and physiology to human sexuality. Nicki has helped men and women step into a more empowered relationship with their body and mind, helping them to achieve what they want in their life.
Nicki was one of only 50 people in the world, and 1 of only 5 women that was hand selected to be a Master Certified Muscle Activation Specialist. Since that time, she has worked with some of the greatest experts, like Jaiya, creator of the Erotic Blueprints™ and consultant for Tony Robbins’ Platinum clients; Joseph Kramer, creator of Sexological Bodywork; Joe Dispenza, neuroscientist and consciousness researcher; Satyen Raja, Founder of Accelerated Evolution; and Orpheus Black, Spiritual BDSM Guru.
Nicki understands what it feels like to be in a strained or dead relationship, no relationship, or a relationship that has had unresolved issues around sex and intimacy for years. She can relate to that profound longing for someone to truly see you, accept you, and want to grow together in love and eroticism.
It can be lonely when you have no idea how to change things, scared of walking into the unknown… and desperately wanting to connect with a partner, love them authentically and grow and expand together into a fully satisfying relationship and erotic life. Nicki has been there and is passionate about helping men and their partners get the love, sex and intimacy they are craving!
We are so excited to accompany you on this incredible journey! Simply click the button below and let your journey begin!
3 Hour Small Group Online Immersion
A deep dive into determining and feeding your Erotic Blueprint™ type “on the table.” Not based on the limited online quiz, nor on what your mind "thinks" your Erotic Blueprint is—but discovered through doing a deeper dive into your body. The body does not lie!
Can be done solo, with a partner, or a friend.
Feel free to leave your camera off, camera on, or camera on part of the time—whatever makes you feel the most comfortable.
Everyone will get a chance for personalized coaching, to clear up any confusion you might be having, as well as getting your burning questions answered—all for the benefit of the whole group.
2 Follow-Up Group Integration Calls
You get 1 group call 2 weeks after the course is complete, plus another group call 4 weeks after that!
We want to support you in integrating and using all of this information in your life without the accountability, support and energy of the container we set upon beginning this journey.
These calls are like training wheels on a bike ... you get some time to "ride" by yourself for a little while (about two weeks), then you get more support to help you continue to integrate all this into your life!
Then you get even more time to "ride" by yourself (4 weeks) and again, we are here to support you where you are!
BONUS #1
ACCOUNTABILITY TRACKER
You will have your own individual Accountability Sheet Tracking System via Google Sheets, allowing you to keep track of all group and individual actions so you stay on the path to your success.
BONUS #2
63 PAGE COURSE WORKBOOK
When you enroll in the Program, you will get the 63 page Erotic Blueprint Breakthrough™ Course Workbook which is the perfect written guide to accompany you on this journey.
BONUS #3
SIX-MONTH MEMBERSHIP #1
Six Month Membership in The Red Jasper Community on the Mighty Networks platform, hosted by Nicki & the Red Jasper Team. Find Live Events, Q&A, Workshops, Courses, and Resources during each monthly theme
BONUS #4
LIFETIME MEMBERSHIP
Lifetime Membership in Jaiya’s Erotic Freedom Club Community which is available on Mighty Networks. This includes Sex Tips, Tools & Tricks Coaching Calls and Pleasure Mastery Coaching Calls.
BONUS #5
ADDITIONAL CONTENT BY JAIYA IN EFC
You gain access to: Campfire and Community Conversations, and The Blueprint Immersions Video Course.
BONUS #6
ADVENTURE DATE SUCCESS SYSTEM
Adventure Date Success System by Jaiya— Workbook & Video Trainings included. Create amazing date nights & experience irresistible magnetic attraction using mystery, obstacles, novelty & naughtiness. For singles, couples, or moresomes!
BONUS #7
GUIDED MEDITATION
A Custom, Recorded for the Group, Guided Meditation and Clearing by Nicki that you can listen to any time you want to help yourself ground, stay out of your head and remain in your body, and then be able to move and make decisions from a calm, grounded space.
BONUS #8
NICKI'S CURATED SPOTIFY PLAYLIST
A curated Spotify playlist by Nicki to help you connect with your body, become aware of how words and music affect your body and mind, feel emotions fully, and move those emotions through your body with intuitive body movement.
BONUS #9
ADVENTURE DATE RETREAT PROGRAM
Get a huge 30% off on an Adventure Date Weekend Retreat Program or One on One Custom Immersion with Nicki for up to 4 people! Expires 1 year from the course completion date.
We are so very excited for those who resonate with this program to join us in this co-created heart centered space! We can't wait to see you, hear you, and honor you on our beautiful journey together.
We offer a sliding scale based on your relative financial standing.
Ultimately, the payment system is designed for those with more access to wealth to cover the costs of those with less access to wealth; we trust your discernment of how you personally fit into this global economic context.
Suggested Financial Contributions
For people with medium to high access to wealth in the global context (as a general rule of thumb: middle class and upper/owning class people in the Global North, anyone with investments or retirement savings, anyone who expects an inheritance):
Friend : $ 988 USD
Supporter : $1888 USD
Partner : $2999 USD
The different levels categorized by ‘Friend’, ‘Supporter’, and ‘Partner’ do not convey any material differences in your experience. They simply mark different contribution amounts within the scale. As you decide what amount to pay, we ask that you not only consider your present-day financial situation governed by income but also factors including:
Historical discrimination faced by your peoples.
Your financial wealth.
Do you have retirement savings?
Your access to income and financial wealth, both current and anticipated.
How easily could you earn more income compared to other people in your country and in the world? Do you expect to receive an inheritance?
People counting on your financial livelihood, including dependents and community members.
The socio-economic conditions of your locale.
Relative to other places in your country and in the world.
We understand that there is an incredible disparity in economic conditions between different parts of the world as well as the historical reality of stolen wealth in many different forms, generally from the so-called Global South to the North.
If you feel challenged by the financial requirements of participation, for people with lower access to wealth in the global context (as a general rule of thumb: most people in the Global South and people who’ve been systematically disadvantaged or are poor/working class in the Global North), please reach out to us here.
Got a partner, friend, or cousin you think would resonate with this work?
You can go on this journey solo and see tremendous growth and success, even if you are in a relationship with a partner. But, if you think or feel that you know someone who might like to join you, then have a coffee or a walk with them, show them this page, tell them you are excited about what the outcome could be, and invite them to go on this journey together with you.
You can add your partner to this life-changing program for just 50% of what you yourself invest.
Together we rise! (and have more orgasms, ha!)
Secure Your Spot Today
You're welcome either to join the program as a solo participant, or you can bring a plus-one for just 50% of the price of a single registrant! Select the option below that suits you best:
Short of your personal displeasure with the content of the course and other unique cases (which we will consider deliberately if they arise) there are very few situations in which we might provide refunds.
There’s an inescapable simultaneity involved with all the actors on this course: by offering this platform, we do not only ‘touch’ you, you touch us – and other participants. It’s a mutual infection. You will come to shape the course simply by showing up, just as much as the course will shape and mark you inexorably. As such, if something does happen along the way – precluding you from continuing our relationship – understand that you cannot be replaced.
So while we have no strict ‘no-refund’ policy as other online courses do, we invite you to consider that the energies you’d have brought with you, as well as the seat you’d occupy (to the exclusion of other potential participants) represent real stakes.
We reserve the responsibility of turning down requests for refunds or offering partial refunds. Any request for a partial refund must be made before the second live session of the course start date you enroll in.
In the interest of protecting this community and its intentions in coming together, we reserve the responsibility of removing individuals from the course who are disrupting the process in a way we deem destructive. Any decision to do so will be made very thoughtfully and with great reservation.
The live course sessions will be conducted via Zoom. The sessions will have live transcription through Otter and we will also provide a copy of the transcription a few days after the session. Because Otter is an automated transcription service, we can’t guarantee its accuracy. There will not be verbal or text descriptions of visual material and the sessions will not be translated into any other language. We reserve the right to record all the sessions. The video, audio, and chat file from the live sessions will be provided within 48 hours of the session to all the course participants.
The live sessions will have up to 12 participants on them and they may sometimes have a chaotic quality to them. For example, there may be moments when everyone is invited to unmute and offer a prayer or speak gratitude. This can be very loud and jarring for some. Also, the Zoom chat is almost always left on – some people find this very helpful as a way to interact and others can find it very distracting (it is possible to move the Zoom chat out of the field of view but this requires a few extra steps.)
Participants will have full agency in deciding their level of engagement with the live sessions. They can choose whether to have their camera on or not, whether to call in with their phone, and whether to join breakout rooms. No one is ever forced to speak in front of the crowd.
The other platform we’ll be using for the course is Mighty Networks. Mighty Networks is a social networking platform where people can post text, audio, images, videos, or links and these can be viewed in a ‘feed’ similar to Facebook. Engagement on this platform is completely optional.
For other questions to determine if this course can work for you, please email us.
The Red Jasper Erotic Blueprints journey is designed to be an experimental and un/learning journey. The outcomes of this convergence are unknown and emergent.
In creating this container, we are consciously opening to the fugitive and the trickster, to the provocative, the unexpected, and the rogue – even with our longings to practice sanctuary-making and a safe-space.
Those of us on the organizing team imagine that the community of participants on this course will espouse different cosmologies, worldviews, political opinions, cultural backgrounds, and so on. This may mean that tensions arise. These tensions can lead to new insights, possibilities, and connections; it can also lead to conflict, fragmentation, and even trauma. We ask that you try to hold these tensions generatively and experience them as potential places of growth. While we are trauma informed, we are not trauma therapists. If you need a trauma therapist, we can help you get the help you need.
We have developed a set of community guidelines to support us throughout the Red Jasper Erotic Blueprints journey. These include the following kinds of practices:
Share generously. This experience will call for you to share your stories, dreams, questions, failures, ideas, and challenges. Speak what needs to be spoken. Speak with an awareness of the impact of your contributions on the group. Please share openly and honestly while trying to stay connected with heart, mind, body, and spirit.
Stay with the challenges. Try to be constructive. Sit with the possibility that we don’t know what’s needed and we don’t have the answers. Can we soften the urge to fix, solve, or transform our reality? Try to observe, listen and honour what is shared without trying to explain, advise, or offer solutions. Keep in mind that conflict is not abuse. If conflict arises and/or someone expresses something you don’t like, consider if there are constructive ways of engaging. Be aware that various cultures have different ways of communicating and engaging in conflict. Some may be more passive, quiet, or avoidant while others may be more direct, expressive, or assertive.
Aim for kindness, settle for curiosity or even avoidance. Though people often make good friends when going through a journey like this, we do not need to come out of this experience as friends. Still, try to be kind and compassionate to one another. If that feels too difficult, try to stay respectful and curious. If that feels too difficult, then maintain a safe distance and carry on.
The full set of guiding principles will be shared with participants upon their acceptance.
While each person is responsible for their personal experience, we also invite an awareness of our entanglements and our impacts on each other and the larger whole from the outset. We invoke the spirits of mutual care. Our intention is to create a context in which we can continually practice cultivating curiosity and skillful means within the complexity of our unfolding relationships.
The Red Jasper Erotic Blueprints Journey is a safe space only as much as we can make it a safe space together, we aspire to support one another and co-create a container where we can all take healthy risks together.
A big thank you goes to Dr. Bayo Akomolafe —a philosopher, psychologist, professor, and poet. He is a teacher and public intellectual renowned for his unconventional views on global crises, activism, and social change. He has helped the Red Jasper Team to understand and offer our work in a more accessible and just way, as well as providing some of the language you see here. Please visit his beautiful artistic website here.
Here are the answers to our most commonly asked questions ...
Great question! This is a time to be honest with yourself and ask these questions:
Are you tired of being unsatisfied and unfulfilled either sexually, emotionally, or both? Do you feel unseen, unheard, unappreciated, or disrespected? Do you feel disconnected and yearn for a genuine, authentic connection? Do you feel insecure, self-doubt, shame, or guilt? If you are a man, do you feel it’s unfair or overwhelming to automatically be categorized as toxic? If the answer to any of these questions is “yes”, I invite you to contemplate all the ways you might be able to solve these issues and then consider what the most efficient, effective way might be.
*** Successful people in any walks of life recognize the importance of having mentors, teachers and coaches on board to help them both fulfill—and maximize—their true potential. We were not put on this Earth to walk this path alone.
While we can appreciate the hesitancy in investing money in yourself and your sex life, we ask you to seriously contemplate or journal about how much money you spend on things that do not help you to have the health, authentic relationships, sex life, and intimacy you truly want in your life.
Ask yourself:
How much money do you spend on vacations hoping that you will finally get the respite and relaxation you need to have the intimacy and sex you want, only to fall back into stressful patterns when you go back to “regular” life?
How much money do you spend on coffee, alcohol, nicotine, cannabis, ice cream, sugar, fast food, or eating out at restaurants?
How much money do you spend on your car, both on the purchase and its maintenance?
How much money do you spend on clothes, shoes, outerwear, gear, toys, etc?
How much money do you spend on your kids, family, and outings of any sort?
How much money have you spent on porn, OnlyFans (nothing against OnlyFans!), sexy movies, sex toys, etc ?
How much money have you spent on shows?
Then ask yourself how much any of the above stuff has contributed to your overall well being, health, happiness, stellar sex life, and intimate, authentic relationship? If you have spent over $145 as a single, or over $200 as a couple per month on a combination of any of the above, ask yourself this question. During the next 10 months, where you can reduce your expenditure in any of the above categories and allocate those funds to this program and getting the love, sex, and intimacy you truly desire? If you work the program, I guarantee that you will indeed see and feel the changes you are wanting to make.
Yes! Both Nicki and her life partner, Ryan, are Shapeshifters and have been learning, loving, and growing together for almost 4 years. They know how to expertly navigate a relationship with many desires in all of the blueprints, navigating boundaries and leaning into their growth edges constantly and consistently, ensuring all of their needs and desires are explored and met in satisfying ways.
We are trauma informed, but we are not trauma therapists. You are welcome to work with your own trauma therapist if you already have one in conjunction with this work. Also, we do have wonderful trauma therapists that we can refer you to and who you can work with in conjunction with the Erotic Blueprints course at any time.
Yes! Nicki and her life partner, Ryan, had both suppressed their kinky characteristics for years and know what it’s like to be starved in this Blueprint. They have both expanded into their kinky Blueprint both in practical knowledge and experience and it is now a big part of their lives. From incorporating easy kinky practices on a daily basis to doing full on bondage, we love the creativity and the freedom and ability to constantly expand the kinky Blueprint! Nicki has also worked closely with and is certified by BDSM Guru, Orpheus Black, in Coaching Kink 101.
Great question and we appreciate you asking it! We acknowledge that these things do exist in our world, and it is one of the reasons we do the work that we do. Two of our core values are Integrity and Impact. What that means to us, is that we are always striving to make an impact on our clients/students and their individual lives, and thus the world at large—but only with absolute integrity and provided always that it serves the highest good of all. We adhere to the highest code of ethics, which EXCLUDES having sexual relationships or being a surrogate with clients/students. We are here to teach you how to get your own needs met. We will not meet them for you.
We also acknowledge that we are in a position of power with our clients/students and, as such, we also want to empower you with choice and the skills to negotiate consent conversations. We do not want you to please us. You always have the freedom to take what resonates with you and leave the rest behind. We aim to help you push towards your edges, resulting in real growth and change, but not go over your edges. Your “no” is equally as valuable as your “yes”. You always have the freedom to choose what is best for you.
No. There is nothing wrong with that, but that is not what we do.
Nicki is a hands off practitioner. She is a guide and helps you learn how to get the love, sex, and intimacy you truly desire with yourself and/or with a partner or friend. She teaches touch and bodywork through demos, videos, and by being a guide to couples or singles with a chosen partner.
Nicki does not act as a surrogate partner. She remains clothed during all video and in-person sessions. She will not become romantically or sexually involved with a student.
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